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The point of this video is that the topic isn't useful. It's not a fear of psychosis. The fear is about the consequences that will lead to. Chasing after a solution to clean away the superficial topic is just more of the compulsions that fuel the cycle

@@everybodyhasabrain Thanks for the answer Mark , i would like to ask you one more question how to practice acceptance from fear of psychosis ? Sorry for disturbing you.

@@aressxyz23 Did you do the exercise in this video and the one before it?

You've posted about this uncertainty several times. But there is no question in your message. I don't know what kind of help you're looking for. But posting it again and again to check for reassurance is an example of something I'd see as not helpful. Instead of trying to chase reassurance about an uncertainty, it can be much more helpful to give that time and energy to things we actually want to grow and build in life.

23kgs of emotions in there.

It is still part of caring for a garden!

Thanks for watching!

What I do with that is make sure I'm writing and sharing that writing. If I'm going to spend time on the story in my head, it's going to directly lead to action that will share the story.

@@everybodyhasabrain That’s a good point. I have a writing buddy I like to discuss with, and I share online too. It’s the biggest issue when I’m trying to sleep. I can’t sleep, so I get bored and daydream. So I’m also gonna work on laying in bed mindfully, even if I’m awake. It’s interesting how I’ve improved so much on anxiety-related compulsions it’s switching the goal posts to stuff I didn’t really have problems with before.

That is so useful to recognize. Those thoughts and feelings can be there. They're just like passing advertisements on the street while we go to do those things we care about.

That's very common! It really helped me to cut out the compulsions I was doing around stuff like that, inside and outside of my head.

Yes. It's like searching for a way to cope with walking past some trash in the street.

Yes

I've discussed that topic often in livestreams.

Can u share once what were those advice.. actually didn't join some live streams

Thank you. That is very kind of you!

@@everybodyhasabrain Honestly, I mean it. Your description of the condition exhibits a contemplative approach. It is obvious that you have thought about this well, and I would like to let you know that it has helped me formulate my own thoughts about it. To a life with less OCD :)

😁🙌 you're welcome, Jacob!

The next livestream is this coming Sunday! It'll be at 8 am Toronto time on Sunday here on RUclips.

Yay! I’ll be there!

@@melinamorina516 see you then!

Enjoy welcoming all of the parts along on the journey!

Absolutely, so I'd actually look at what would even bring up an idea that uncertainty around relationship stuff would be different from any other uncertainty. There are usually some unhelpful beliefs or compulsions there, which is what gets us caught up doing compulsions around relationship stuff we're judging as different.

@@everybodyhasabrain thank you Mark! I'll keep exploring :)

@@everybodyhasabrainI also have relationship based intrusions but I feel like there’s a valid reason why I look at relationship brain stuff differently than other brain stuff. I think it’s because relationships have a greater impact on my happiness and more uncertainty. Sure I’d be unhappy if I was poor (and misfortune can happen), but I’m at peace with the certainty I have that I’ll make the most of my skills to be financially independent. How can I see relationship brain stuff as just brain stuff when I prioritize relationships more in my life? Even before my current relationship (first of my life), I had anxiety related to the family dynamic after my sister came out

@AryanShahGamingMusic I'd first look at the beliefs around relationships and what you believe it means to prioritize something. There could be totally different beliefs that would be more useful, and different ways to understand prioritization

@@everybodyhasabrainThank you so much for replying but I’m really confused by what you mean by this 😭. It would be really helpful if you elaborated a bit

Thank you for reading and sharing!

It's like it's all happening in one organ!

Checking for reassurance about that is an example of classic compulsion. It will not be a good use of my time to even try thinking of what other possible answers there could be to that question.

Much much easier without the compulsions!

Thanks for watching! There are some more workshops coming up, so maybe we can do something similar at future ones, too.

That's the exact same stuff. The brain can throw up whatever it wants and you don't need to do the compulsions around that stuff.

@@everybodyhasabrain thank you

Thank you! It kept me dry.

The question about something being good for cutting rumination is like asking: "Is mantra meditation good for not hitting myself in the face with a frying pan?" Ruminating is something we do. It's not a specific meditation that's going to cut ruminating for us. You could do any meditation and also just keep on ruminating or hitting yourself in the face with a frying pan. If you want to change those actions because you see they're not useful to you, then it'll be about changing those actions.

You're welcome!

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Enjoy the workout!

I'm glad it found you at a useful time!

It's true!

I don't know what you mean by that, but I would describe the point of the video quite differently.

Brains like to brain!

It's a great practice for me, too, because I also ate lunch right before hopping on the video, and as soon as the video was done, we went right into the afternoon exercises. In the past, I would've put so much buffer space around everything because I believed I needed to get some feeling or make sure there were no bad feelings. And I would often avoid food before public speaking because I was afraid of anything going wrong in my stomach. But now I can nourish myself and practice just being myself without all of the extra baggage I'd dump on every moment.

@@everybodyhasabrain Really cool 🙌🏻 I no longer strive for a certain feeling✔️ and I eat before or during meetings again✔️. But accepting the bad feelings is my final boss, YET.

Enjoy!

Cmon now…he has literally dozens of videos on his channel tackling these kinds of issues. Put in some work!! Take responsibility for recovery, only we can get ourselves out of this but it takes work! Watch his videos on compulsions

@Ryy22 Do you imagine that talking to complete strangers on the internet that way, from an anonymous account, is an effective way to support people making changes? They did not post that question on your video. If you want to talk to people like that, feel free to under the videos on your channel. But if you want to share with people in this community, under my videos, then it'll be useful to communicate more effectively, with an understanding of how people navigate change. If somebody is struggling and they have to fear they'll get criticized for asking a question, it's much more likely that they won't ask at all, or they won't ask directly, and we have to have a long conversation to get at what they actually wanted to say. If I do want to articulate some boundaries, I can do that myself. I'm nearly a whole grown-up adult.

The exercise I give people to start with skin picking is to first take a week of setting specific times when you won't do the compulsion. So you might sit down to watch a 30 minute video and set the intention of not picking your skin during that video. Choose what to want to do with your hands. Practice noticing the urge to pick. Or, if you start picking automatically, celebrate that you noticed and bring the focus back to the intention you had set. Be curious about how the automatic picking started. That week is about learning how the picking machinery works. It may feel automatic at first, but as we bring more awareness to the machinery, then we can pull it apart. The following week, I'd do two periods of intentionally trying to choose not to do it for a specific, short period of time (maybe 30 minutes). The following week, I'd do 3 periods of intentionally making a different choice each day. And with each week, incorporating what you learn to help yourself get ahead of the urge to do the compulsion. The fourth week, I'd start trying to do complete days, but I'd still divide it up into small chunks (30 or 60 min) and set an intention for each period of time. AND it's not about getting it perfect. If you start picking, that's fine. Great to learn why. And for the next period of time, you don't have to pick. We just gradually get better and better at it while learning how to interact differently with the feelings that come up when we don't practice the compulsion.

@@everybodyhasabrain that person’s comment made me want to pick lol. I agree that it was very unhelpful and made me feel ashamed for asking even thought the question was for you and not them. I greatly appreciate your advice and in taking the time to reply though. I’m gonna try it starting today and see if I can find the willpower to do something else. I know I pick on days that I’m more stressed and for the last 6 months, I’ve picked basically every day. The place I pick is my scalp and I haven’t really been able to let it heal cause I just have this underlying simmering anxiety all the time. I was trying to think about the times before I picked and why I didn’t feel the need to pick back then, and I have come to the conclusion that I just wasn’t as anxious back then and I hadn’t “needed” to pick. I know I had other compulsions back then that I’d do when I was anxious but picking wasn’t one of them. Maybe cause I hadn’t “discovered” it yet. Lately I’ve just been feeling like my anxiety about life in general is far greater than my willpower to stop picking which is why I think it’ll be so hard to stop. If I can find a way to soothe myself in times of distress in a more productive way then that would be great but there’s something about giving into that temptation (or the bittersweet pain it inflicts) that calms me down more than anything else… I’m worried that if I try your exercise, I won’t be able to find something else that soothes me in the meantime but I’m still gonna try it and see if I can just sit with the anxiety. Thank you again

​@@everybodyhasabrain There wasnt bad intention behind it, my communication style is just a bit direct and stern, but it wasnt demeaning or swearing? Read it again, it was actually meant to be motivating. ''But if you want to share with people in this community, under my videos, then it'll be useful to communicate more effectively, with an understanding of how people navigate change. " How? If you could expand a bit then maybe I can learn how to do better/communicate more effectively. This is all new for me. @11ellie7 Sorry you feel that way, wasnt my intention, was hoping to spur/inspire you into action, I can be a bit blunt at times. I am trying to do better